Why do people now go to monasteries not from an impoverished life but from a life of comfort, how to find the right monastery, which of the holy fathers should be read, what is the proper relationship of a monastic to parents, should the internet be used, and why young hieromonks should not be assigned to parishes? Archbishop Mark (Arndt) of Berlin, Germany and Great Britain answers these questions.
Question: Are more or fewer people seeking the monastic life than before?
Answer: It is difficult to say. I think that the contingent of our faithful is different than it was twenty or thirty years ago. We now have as a whole a greater number of believers, and corresponding to this growth is an increase in the number of monastics. I suppose that when people lived in poverty, they are not so inclined to monastic life then when they live well. A person can more easily deny himself what he has than what he does not have.
Question: What do people expect from monasticism when they come to it today? What disappoints them?
Answer: The most difficult thing, and not only in our time, but always, has been obedience and the denial of one’s own will. It is met with more resistance, more sharply today, when a person lives in complete satisfaction, when the material world gives him all he wants. When there is no poverty, then one must reject all the external glitter, and as I said, this is not so hard. But what is hard is denying your own will. That is the problem.
Question: Can you learn monasticism from books?
Answer: Books can help, they can give direction, but there is nothing like experience in order to really learn about it, just as any facet of life.
Question: What would you recommend new monastics to read today?
Answer: First of all the Ancient Fathers: St Macarius of Egypt, St Anthony the Great. There are, of course, more contemporary guides, say, St Ignatius (Brianchaninov), who can help find the right path. But this cannot replace personal guidance.
Question: How does one choose a monastery to go to?
Answer: That depends on the country; in some there are many monasteries, in others not even one. In Germany we did not have a convent for many years. We would send our candidates to neighboring France, or to the Holy Land.
Then we were able to open our own convent, because a few women came together who could not leave Germany. These were external conditions which led to the establishment of a convent.
The choice here is not as easy as, say, Russia, Serbia or Greece.
That is why there is no set rule. A lot depends on the spiritual father of the monastery. Let us say a person comes as a pilgrim to some monastery, and he likes it there. He has the opportunity to adjust to this monastery, but he can also visit other monasteries, examine their daily rule, their life, and select the one that suits him better.
I always advise people to visit several monasteries. One monastery may have a set of rules which isn’t for everyone, and thank God, there are many different ustavy [monastic charters transl.]. A person should choose the one that suits him best.
Question: There used to be families with many children, and if a young man or woman strove for the monastic life, they could easily leave their parents to the care of their brothers or sisters. Today, parents are often left to their own devices. What is one to do?
Answer: There are families in which the spiritual life flows so naturally that they easily consent to their son or daughter to go into a monastery. There are also families for whom this decision is shocking. They find it hard to accept.
It is impossible to generalize: there are all sorts of different situations. The other day I heard about how in Serbia, a father and his brothers came to “liberate” his son from a monastery, and I had known of such instances in the past. This is not a rare occurrence.
On the other hand there are families which fully support their children’s decision. In my experience, there is no difference between large and small families in this regard.
Question: What is to be done if parents stay in the world, but then they grow old and sick. It turns out then that their child’s decision to become a monastic is a time bomb; won’t he or she then have to go back into the world to care for them?
Answer: In today’s society almost no one is left uncared-for. The main thing is to have a spiritual bond, but at the same time I don’t require that my monastics completely sever any bonds with their parents or friends, and to one degree or another I let them stay in touch: by telephone, letters, whatever is more convenient.
There is also another problem. Sometimes a parent is so disappointed that their child goes to a monastery, especially if it is an only child, that they break off all contact with them. Or they turn it into a prison sentence, with no contact but stern demands that they return, or have only formal conversations: “Hello. How are you?”
Still, we give blessing to visit parents. There are cases when a monastic is sent home for some time, to take care of his parents. There are all sorts of cases, which really depend on the maturity of the monastic himself.
Question: How does such an absent monastic then maintain his relationship with the monastery?
Answer: It all depends on how long a period the absence is. Usually in these cases he leaves but maintains contact with his spiritual father by phone or email.
Question: How much time should a monastic spend on the internet? Can spiritual advice be given through that medium?
Answer: Of course there is some advice that can be offered, but only as an exception to the rule. As a whole, of course, you need personal connection. We can use modern technology, but we must take care that it does not take over all communication. The internet has not made a principal change in such relations. For instance, when people got access to the mass media, they had to learn to turn it off, too. The same applies to television.
Monastics use the internet to the degree their obedience allows. Our monastery has a print shop, and monastics need to be able to access text through e-mail, to edit and make proofs.
Still, I always insist that they limit their usage. Everything else on line drags you in, and deprives you of freedom.
Question: How decisive must one be in striving for monasticism. How much of an effort should one make, and how much should be expected from Divine Providence, or some sign from above?
Answer: I personally never try to persuade a person to become a monk, in fact, to the contrary, I usually advise putting off the decision and testing oneself. I wait until a person is absolutely convinced that he cannot live otherwise. If a person still has doubts, I advise that they take some time off, test themselves, and then come back.
This is too important a step, just like marriage, in fact. Today, unfortunately, everything is different. Both monasticism and marriage are seen as something temporary: you try it, didn’t like it, you move on. I reject this attitude and insist that every candidate do some serious soul-searching.
But beyond that, we keep our people as novices for a long time. If a candidate is over the age of 25, he remains at our Monastery of St Job of Pochaev for a minimum of one year as a trudnik [monastery volunteer transl.], a novice for 3-4 years, as a simple monk for 5-7 years.
Question: Some are of the opinion that those that are truly called to a monastic life do not have this conflict of whether to be tonsured or get married. Do you share this opinion?
Answer: Everything depends on how spiritually mature a person is for one life or the other. Only a spiritual father can determine whether the monastic life will suit a candidate. Every case is different. We have had some very young people who knew precisely what they are striving for, and those who were middle aged who weren’t sure of their decision to be tonsured, whom we therefore couldn’t receive.
Question: How should one prepare oneself for monasticism while still living in the world, before becoming a trudnik in a monastery?
Answer: I advise testing yourself: how ready are you for the daily monastic routine? Wake up at night to read the midnight office; then go back to sleep, or read it very early in the morning; observe the monastic fasting regime even before tonsure. But the measure of one’s asceticism is a matter of his individual abilities.
Question: What about your tonsure?
Answer: I was tonsured as a result of my yearning for monasticism. I approached it for eight years. I never despaired and did not even doubt my decision.
Question: You knew St Justin (Popovich). What did he say about monasticism today?
Answer: The late Fr Justin would look at us, flying all over the world, and he called us “jet-set monks”. Still, he felt that monasticism, even under a broad set of external forms, remains essentially unchanged.
Question: In Russia, especially in the 1990’s, many churches were being opened, and frequently young monks, soon after tonsure, were ordained and assigned to a parish. Technically speaking, this was convenient: they had no families, they could devote all their time to rebuilding a church, and so they could be appointed to a place where it would be hard for a married priest with his wife and children to live. But there is another side to this: a young person who only just made his vows of poverty, chastity and obedience, is thrust out alone into the world with all of its temptations. Does Germany have the same problem?
Answer: This indeed has been happening in Russia, of course, out of the need for parish priests. We also had a problem like this in the 1950’s and 60’s [Vladyka Mark served for 5 years in a parish in Wiesbaden as a hieromonk, then Archimandrite editors]. But we always recognized that this was abnormal, unnatural and incorrect. That is why I completely stopped doing that. I don’t have a single hieromonk serving in a parish in my diocese. I don’t even allow a hieromonk to live in a monastery and travel to parishes to serve. Thank God! If a person enters a monastery, he leaves the world behind and should never return.
Question: Is a priestly rank required for holding any administrative post in a monastery?
Answer: An abbot usually has the rank of priest, and this has been customary in the Russian tradition for centuries. All other posts in a monastery may perfectly well be filled by simple monks.
Question: The Russian religious media recently discussed the question of whether to adopt the practice of establishing specific monastic orders with clearly defined directions and assignments. What is your opinion on this?
Answer: I don’t think this would bring any benefit. The introduction of orders is an extraneous restriction upon monastic life. Western monasticism has long ago been connected to various orders. On one side they are all very different, on the other hand, each is far more regulated than Orthodox monasticism. If you go to one Benedictine monastery, it is identical to the next one; meanwhile, our monasteries all have their own particularities. We view the freedom of an individualistic approach by each monastery as being a plus.
Question: How can monasteries preserve a prayerful atmosphere when it must perform a great deal of social work?
Answer: The most important thing in monasticism is serving God in the form it is practiced in a given monastery. It can be more liturgical or more practical. There are different approaches. There are monasteries in which monastics devote most of their lives to external service, while at others they limit such work. Our monastery of St Job is established on a liturgical order.
Question: What are the relations between monastics and the government in Germany?
Answer: On the whole I would say that in Germany, both the government and society have preserved respect for monasticism. Unfortunately, it is fading, because there is almost no Orthodox monasticism, there are very few of us. Imagine, of all the Local Orthodox Churches, only the Russian Church has monasteries here!
The Catholics only have a handful of monks, who live in enormous, ancient monasteries and strive to preserve them, in fact they have become little more than custodians [in June, the building of a Catholic monastery from the 12-15th centuries was put on the market editors].
Monasticism is rarely seen, so consequently, it is difficult to preserve respect for the vocation. Children don’t even understand what these odd figures in long black clothing passing by them are.
Archbishop Mark’s background:
Archbishop Mark was born Michael Arndt on January 29, 1941, in Saxony, where the first Russian bishop of German extraction, Metropolitan Seraphim (Lade) of blessed memory, was born.
Having finished his final 13-year exams in Frankfurt am Main in 1960, the future Vladyka Mark joined the military services of West Germany, where he spent a year and a half. He then reenlisted several times and reached the rank of senior lieutenant.
In 1962, he enrolled in the Frankfurt University’s history/philology department, transferring later to Heidelberg University. There he specialized in Slavic and English, studying, in addition to Russian, Serbo-Croatian, Slovak, Czech and Macedonian language and literature. He wrote his doctoral thesis on the topic ‘Biographical Literature of the Tver Kingdom of the XIV and XV Centuries’.
Studying the Russian language led the young student to the Russian emigre community in Frankfurt. As a student of Prof. Dimitri Chizhevsky in Heidelberg , he would visit the ROCOR church in Mannheim dedicated to St Alexander Nevsky, where he converted to Holy Orthodoxy in 1964, soon being ordained a reader. Trips to Mt Athos, friendship with the Athos elders at Karoulia (Schemahieromonk Seraphim and Schemahieromonk Seraphim, Schemahieromonk Nikolaos, Schemamonk Nikodim), visits to St Elias Skete and St Panteleimon Monastery, where he came to know Schemahieromonk Abel (now Archimandrite of St John the Theologian Monastery in Ryazan’) determined the spiritual path of this Doctor of Slavic Studies. His future scholarly work was then devoted to the glorified St Philaret, Metropolitan of Moscow.
In the fall of 1973, the future hierarch began studying theology in Belgrade University, which he graduated with a theology degree in 1979. His personal friendship with then-disfavored Archimandrite Justin (Popovic) in Celije Monastery led him to the inner circle of the students of this Serbian Abbot, who were then hieromonks and now hierarchs of the Serbian Orthodox Church Metropolitan Amphilohije,Bishop Atanasije, Bishop Artemije, Metropolitan Irinej.
Ordained to the deaconate in 1975, the future Vladyka Mark soon ceased teaching Church Slavonic and ancient Russian language and literature in Erlangen, and halted his scholarly work, in favor of being tonsured to the monkhood, which occurred in the summer of 1975 at Lesna Convent in France. Three days later, Fr Mark was ordained a hieromonk and assigned as Deputy Rector of the Russian church in Wiesbaden. In the summer of 1976, by decision of the Synod of Bishops, he was elevated to the rank of archimandrite. Archbishop Paul (Pavlov, +1995), who was then Bishop of Stuttgart and Southern Germany, tonsured and ordained him. Archimandrite Mark ministered to three parishes’Wiesbaden, Darmstadt and Saarbrucken. He devoted himself to preserving the tsarist churches of Germany and the renovation and expansion of the Russian cemetery near the Wiesbaden church, where he conducted the full cycle of monastic divine services, and began to gather and teach the local youth, while continuing to study theology and passing examinations in Belgrade.
Following the death of Archbishop Theodosius of Australia and New Zealand, the Synod of Bishops appointed Bishop Paul, Vicar of the German Diocese, to replace him. Archimandrite Mark was then elevated to the episcopacy and appointed Bishop of Munich and Southern Germany. The hierarchal consecration was performed on November 30, 1980 at the Synodal Cathedral of Our Lady of the Sign in New York. In accordance with ecclesiastical law, during the nomination, Archimandrite Mark read a sermon through which he threaded his concern for how he was to lead his flock. Warm words were spoken about his spiritual proximity to the great Serbian ascetic and theologian Archimandrite Justin (Popovic, +1979) and affinity for the Holy Mt Athos. His Eminence Metropolitan Philaret (Voznesensky, +1985) officiated at the consecration, along with Archbishop Vitaly (Oustinov, +2006) of Montreal and Canada; Archbishop Anthony (Medvedev, +2000) of San Francisco and Western America; Bishop Laurus (Shkurla, +2008) of Syracuse and Holy Trinity Monastery; Bishop Paul and Bishop Gregore (Grabbe, +1995) of Manhattan.
After the consecration, Vladyka Mark moved with a small group of monks to the Monastery of St Job of Pochaev in Munich. The monastery underwent reconstruction and renovation. Since 1981, it has published the ‘Vestnik Germanskoj Eparkhii’ [Messenger of the German Diocese], a publishing house was set up for Russian- and German-language materials, as well as a candle and incense factory. The monastery follows the Mt Athos rule. In the fall of 1982, Bishop Mark, due to the serious illness of Archbishop Thilophius (Narko), became Bishop of Berlin and Germany, continuing to live at St Job Monastery, whence he rules the Diocese.
In the mid-1980’s, Vladyka Mark was appointed Administrator of the Diocese of Great Britain as well as St Alexander Nevsky Parish in Copenhagen.
In 1991, the Synod of Bishops elevated Vladyka Mark to the rank of Archbishop.
In 1997, he was appointed Overseer of the Russian Ecclesiastical Mission in Jerusalem.
Between 1993-1997, Vladyka Mark headed the dialog between the two Russian Orthodox dioceses (of the Moscow Patriarchate and the Russian Church Abroad) in the newly-reunited Germany. Since 2000, Archbishop Mark has been Chairman of the Commission on the Unity of the Russian Church, and since 2003, the Chairman of the Commission of the Russian Orthodox Church Outside of Russia on discussions with the Moscow Patriarchate.
I am looking into becoming a monastic. I am nearly fifty years old though, and have had seven children. My main goal is “to pray for all people as I pray for myself” as Saint Silouhan said.
I may be too old to become a monk. Obedience is valued more than prayer. After being in charge as a father, I may not have the discipline left for a monastic undertaking. I have only visited one monastery though. A Western Rite Benedictine monastery under the Vicarage of Antioch. I loved it, but the Ethos was still not quite for me. I came at a time when I would have been in charge of many things and I was not ready to be in charge of things again after my children grew up and I got divorced.
I don’t care for this juvenile midlife crises, and I am nearly at the end of it after being divorced for six years but; it was a necessary process.
I do know how to make a chotki though, so I at least have that talent, and I try to help others cultivate prayer as I cultivate my own.
Thank you for your insightful and informed articles on monasticism, they have been helpful. May God bless you and your work, especially on the internet that is so prone to guile.
Thanks for sharing your story, Michael. May God guide you to the right pace at the right time.
I have considered becoming a monk since I was 17 years old noting the zeal of devotion of monks in a California monastery that pray, face down, in the dark, 24/7. I never forgot how that devotion gripped me.
Periodically over the years I would entertain the thought of joining a monastery, particularly when I struggled to win the affections of a heart-sick love interest. Those moments were marked by bitter loneliness and abandonment, passions raged.
But today I am 43 years old and I no longer struggle with rejection, loneliness, abandonment, or raging passions as I did when I was younger. Today I feel despair over my own corrupted flesh. It came to me at the moment I think I may have sabotaged my relationship with my current “wife to be”. When she held out the ring to me and asked if I wanted it back, I had become aware of what I had done. I watched myself do it, listened to the madness calmly proceeding from my lips, helplessly, realizing my flesh was so corrupt it had developed a mind of its own and doesn’t even need the inflammation of anger to operate anymore. I basically pushed her away because I am plagued with fear.
Over the past several years I have been gradually sacrificing the comforts of life anyway, and I no longer see the point of living in this world. I don’t even enjoy eating anymore, I do it because I have to. I am not depressed, I am disillusioned by a world that walks in circles. The thought of giving away everything I own for a life of monasticism doesn’t seem all that scary as it once did. For about a year now I often reflect upon William Butler Yeats’ “Sailing to Byzantium” and in particular the following verse:
O sages standing in God’s holy fire
As in the gold mosaic of a wall,
Come from the holy fire, perne in a gyre,
And be the singing-masters of my soul.
Consume my heart away; sick with desire
And fastened to a dying animal
It knows not what it is; and gather me
Into the artifice of eternity.
I am a “cradle catholic” in the Roman Tradition. I have been away from the faith for sometime. I have realized over the years, that I am not able to fit with protestantism and have tried returning to the Western Roman Church, but I am not satisfied.
I was married 25 years, (wife passed away in 2010) I have not remarried. 2 daughters were sired from that marriage, and 7 grandchildren were produced.
I am in a state of asceticism, and have been for sometime. I pray in the morning, noon, and night and wake in the middle of the night to listen to the liturgy, as well as several times during the day.
I am interested in a more monastic life within a Monastery (somewhere within the Orthodox Church); away from North America. Is this possible for me – I am approaching my 70th birthday in Sept (24th day) 2023.