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One young man told me: “I really love one girl and really appreciate her; I deeply admire her and want her to be with me”. I was very surprised and told him: \u201cWhat are you doing for this?\u201d The answer was: \u201cNothing. She will never know about it, because she loves someone else. Since I love her, I won\u2019t say anything to her. I love her, therefore I do not want to interfere in her life, although now we spend some time together. We are graduating from university. Thoughts have arisen to come up to her, to talk, to propose a family life. But when I realized that all her thoughts are about someone else, I left her alone. I love her, so I\u2019m avoiding her\u201d. This is what \u201clove\u201d means! To think about the good of the one you love. In this case, it will be good not to preoccupy her heart, to respect the life choice of another person. This love inside you will turn into a tear, a diamond, into that pain with which live water will flow into your heart, so to speak, the water of God\u2019s grace. And though your love is hidden now, it seems that you do not show it, but this love, on the contrary, deepens inside you. You become more sensitive, real, creative and valuable. And someday you will receive a reward for this. That’s for sure.<\/p>\n
\u201cI love my child,\u201d said one mother, dialing his phone number five hundred times. \u201cI\u2019m doing this out of love, I want to know what he\u2019s doing, where he is.\u201d But the truth is different. In fact, she cannot stand the separation from her child. She cannot stand the fact that her child is going into adulthood. \u201cWho are you with, why are you coming back late, what have I heard about you, who is that girl?\u201d Nothing but suspicions and ill connection. And this is definitely not love. Because \u201cto love\u201d means \u201cto give\u201d, to say: \u201cI want you to spread your wings. I want you to feel good”.<\/p>\n
\u201cHe must increase, but I must decrease\u201d, – \u00a0said St. John the Baptist when he saw the Lord. \u201cI love the Lord, so I do not care that I will be in the background. No matter where I go, so much light spreads before me that there are no limits, not even shadows. I will always be in the light, when I love Him, I will always be in joy. I love Him from afar as well. I love Him, let it seem that I am disappearing and going out. I love Him from a distance also, I feel it in my heart. I give freedom. I don\u2019t care who he speaks to, I am not tempted by this, I do not envy, I do not suffer\u201d.<\/p>\n
And do you know what this does to another person? He starts to love you more; he cannot leave you. Do you know why he cannot? Because you give him the opportunity to be free. When you provide an opportunity for someone to leave you, they cannot do this. When you hold them by force, you achieve the opposite.<\/p>\n
Do you understand? This happens in different relationships. You have noticed this many times in your own relationships. You say: “I envy my wife a lot, I suffer …” If you love her, look inside yourself. And firstly, find your own beauty that will fill you with reliability and tranquility. Then learn to love your person truly, pray for him, feel what he feels, that is, say: \u201cDoes he enjoy what I am doing now? Does he like that I torment him like this, tire him, put pressure on him?\u201d<\/p>\n
Translated by The Catalogue of Good Deeds<\/em> One young man told me: “I really love one girl and really appreciate her; I deeply admire her and want her to be with…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":26802,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":true,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","default_image_id":0,"font":"","enabled":false},"version":2}},"categories":[61],"tags":[95],"class_list":["post-26801","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-orthodox-wisdom","tag-relationships"],"aioseo_notices":[],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/catalog.obitel-minsk.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/14d654642e97e745d921d8c766ad2ec4.jpg","views":{"total":246,"cached_at":"","cached_date":1768404382},"jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/paPyw9-6Yh","_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/catalog.obitel-minsk.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/26801","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/catalog.obitel-minsk.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/catalog.obitel-minsk.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/catalog.obitel-minsk.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/catalog.obitel-minsk.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=26801"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/catalog.obitel-minsk.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/26801\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":26803,"href":"https:\/\/catalog.obitel-minsk.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/26801\/revisions\/26803"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/catalog.obitel-minsk.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/26802"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/catalog.obitel-minsk.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=26801"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/catalog.obitel-minsk.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=26801"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/catalog.obitel-minsk.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=26801"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}
\nFrom the book \u201cLove Forever\u201d by Father Andrew (Konanos).<\/em>
\nSource: https:\/\/pravlife.org\/ru\/content\/arhim-andrey-konanos-dumay-o-blage-togo-kogo-lyubish<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"